Reflections on Being Married

Tuesday Matt and I celebrate our 2nd Wedding Anniversary. Hopefully by then we'll have plans for something awesome to celebrate, but in the meantime, I wanted to offer my reflections on being married. As a point of reference, I never really imagined myself being married until I met Matt- but I am incredibly fond of him so I am glad we decided to go through with it.

Just being married is pretty easy (since Matt is so easy going), but I still feel like I could be better at it. For example, in our picture of marriage, we are supposed to be here to support each other. I am supposed to help Matt be the best Matt he can be. He has recently gotten into designing speakers, and the obvious output of this hobby promises to be a lot of speakers. My knee-jerk reaction is that "We don't need any more speakers- we don't need half the ones we have," but as a good wife, I am trying to find friends who might appreciate this new interest. He is much better at this than I am. A big component of grad school is an unpredictable schedule. I try to keep mine reigned in as much as possible, but we share cooking duties about 50:50, and he does more laundry and dish than I do by far. Considering what a huge sacrifice he made by coming to Pittsburgh with me in the first place, I ought to be pulling my own weight a bit more, right?

Fortunately, neither of us is ready to act like settled people - although adopting Raoul (the cat) really felt like we increased our maturity a lot- we still manage to pack our time with lots of fun. After having to rebuild our lives out here, I appreciate that we are both more interesting people if we don't do everything together. This does mean consciously planning time together and respecting the separate spheres we do travel in, which is a sort of daily act. But it is very satisfying to have someone who is impressed by my cooking, who makes sure the rent gets paid and still tries to make me laugh waiting at home for me.